There are tons of lists out there on just how to twiddle your tongue or flick your wrist to give your man better oral sex. But really, there is just one thing you need to know to blow him away:

Presentation is everything

That’s right. Forget technique, forget rhythm, forget speed. If you can’t make him feel that you absolutely love to suck his dick, worship it, that you want nothing more than for him to come in your mouth… then you won’t get to that next level.

Let me share you my three essentials for giving better blowjobs:

Play. Don’t take the whole thing too seriously. Don’t focus on the 50 instructional videos you watched. Go with the flow, be playful, focus on him and how his body responds and just do whatever feels right. And use all you’ve got – your lips, your tongue, your hands, your boobs. Blowjobs are so much more than ‘in and out of your mouth’

Smile. That’s right, really simple, but most ladies seem to forget. If you start gagging the moment he drops his pants, you will hardly leave a pleasurable impression. If he tastes a bit smelly, get over it – it will be gone in a second, just lube him up more.  And remember to have a joint shower next time 😉

Put up a show. Give him porn. Put on that bright red lipstick and smokey eyes are great too. Look at him, let your eyes show how horny licking his cock makes you. And if it doesn’t, pretend – there is nothing wrong with that. Try masturbating whilst giving head to make sure you enjoy it some more.

If you are NOT in a committed relationship, then please DO use condoms. There are plenty of STDs that can be transmitted orally – and then forget this last point. Do NOT swallow. Otherwise:

Swallow. Now, assuming you are in a steady relationship and both are healthy, then swallow: I am a hardliner here. How can you worship his dick and then spit out the cum? Imagine, you put up that amazing show, he had the blowjob of his life, and then you start spitting as soon as he finishes? If it puts you off soo badly, treat it like medicine. Try to get over yourself, it will make all the difference for him. Lick your lips, wipe the corners of your mouth and make him think he tasted like sweet chocolate. If you can’t – go for plan B and beg him to cum over your face or breasts. But then really beg him, smear it all over, be the sluttiest girlfriend you can possibly be.

Why not try out right away, get on your knees and surprise him? Or wake him up in the morning with a sweet surprise. He’ll be in heaven.

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Sonja Bla

Sonja is a co-founder of boldpleasures. She’s on a mission to free people to revel in their true sensuality by removing the stigma surrounding kink. Sonja writes about first steps, ditching the shame and how to combine kink and ‘normal’ family life. She’s a mother of two and happily married.

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