A certain level of Power struggle is mostly established between every couple when it comes to Sexual Experiences, be it BDSM or Vanilla. Usually, the Dominant-Submissive trope is followed while the couple engages sexually, as the BDSM rules suggest. But it is limited to sexual activities only. However, some couples really buy into the whole Dominant-Submissive roleplay as it turns them on to see their partner playing the specific dynamic until they decide to carry forward the Power dynamic outside the Sexual bounds and explore it as a lifestyle.
It can turn really kinky and hot if done the right way. This scenario is called a Total Power Exchange and has specific BDSM rules. Stay with us as we tell you more about it so that you can expand your Sexual horizons with your partner as well.
What is a Total Power Exchange (TPE)?
As the name suggests, Total power Exchange is the seeping of the bedroom BDSM rules into the daily life of the Sexual partners. This lets go of the limits of the Dominant-Submissive power dynamic to the sex and consensually places the powers to dictate the Submissive in the hands of the Dominant partner. Since it is a continuous lifestyle practice supposed to continue for a longer period of time, the ground rules and the consent discussion happens before the Total power Exchange actually begins. Let’s find out more about it.
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Laying the BDSM Rules for TPE
The partners setting up to start a Total Power Exchange relationship lay some ground in BDSM Rules. These apply for whatever time TPE works. First and foremost, there needs to be immense trust between the two individuals as the Submissive specifically needs to let go of total control of their life and trust the Dominant partner with it. In addition, a distinction must be made in the sense that it should at all times stay within the Contract else it could turn abusive. This makes the Dominant partner more responsible to remain mindful of the boundaries throughout while keeping the fun alive. The basic things that are discussed as part of the BDSM house rules for Total Power Exchange are as follows:
- Consent of both the partners
- BDSM penalties and punishments
- The specific roles of each partner
- Exceptional Terms & Conditions where the Submissive may not follow the Dominant’s orders
- The terms for Signing out of the agreement
- Tasks and Rules for Submissives
- Any individual limitations or terms
TPE Protocols as per BDSM Rules
As kinky or frivolous as Total Power Exchange sounds, it is a proper agreement with strict rules and regulations for both partners. The intensity of the strictness or the rigidity of the TPE is what comprises the Protocols. Generally, They are classified as High, Relaxed, and Low Protocol:
- High Protocol
It is the most formal intensity level of the Total Power Exchange Agreement wherein, the Submissive may be required to use Honorifics to address the Dominant such as Master/Mistress, etc. to keep the sexual stimulation high at all points. It could also involve Kneeling down in front of the Master to establish the power dynamic.
- Relaxed Protocol
In the case of specific situations such as a family setup of the couple, they may need to loosen it up a bit. They might have to opt for the Relaxed Protocol of BDSM rules. Hence, there isn’t that much formality involved in daily life but may come back to its own within the confines of the bedroom.
- Low Protocol
Obviously, real life comes in between Sexual play and the BDSM rules cannot be irrevocably applied to all situations. Likewise, for Public settings, the BDSM protocol is maintained low as the usual Honorifics or kneeling down cannot be done outside.
BDSM Rules & Regulations in TPE
Once the Contract and high protocol BDSM is set, the more specific rules and roles are defined between the partners. There is a wide variety of experimentation that couples are usually involved in, to make the setup as steamy as possible. We have listed a few of the popular activities and controls that are played in a TPE relationship:
- Orgasm/Masturbation Control
As a Dominant in this relationship, you can play around with so much. This goes as far as controlling when or how the Submissive partner is allowed to Orgasm/masturbate. There are several Orgasm delaying techniques that you can play or even try to force one.
- Appearance
What clothes, if at all, the Slave wears is dictated by the Master. Everything from Makeup, and shoes, to lingerie, becomes a Master’s wish that the Slave needs to fulfill. This keeps the fun going on and ends up turning on the couple.
- Sleep & Bathroom Control
Even this gives a lot of scope to play around with the Slave as you could make them sleep on the floor, on the pet bed, in cages, or prohibit sleeping altogether. Only if the Master allows can the Slave to sleep on the same bed. To rake things up, the Master may even strip the Slave of their Bathroom rights and only send them to the washroom as they command.
- Service
Needless to say, whatever the Dominant partner wishes are the Submissive’s command. Serving food, demanding oral sex, a massage, or anything else is completely the Master’s prerogative.
- Posture and Eye Contact
As per BDSM rules in TPE, the Master can specify the position in which the Slave sits or kneels, the position in which they walk or submit themselves to the Master in bed. Additionally, even Eye contact can be banned for the Slave in front of the Master.
- Collars
As per the Master’s wishes, a Collar can be given to the Slave to wear at all times. It makes things hot and shows ownership of the Slave towards the Master. In case the Total Power Exchange is discreet, more obvious jewelry can be used to show the sense of submission as an inside reference.
- Financial Control
The Master also takes away the Slave’s rights to earn money or work outside. They take full responsibility for the Finances and provide for the Slave in exchange for Sexual and Non-sexual slavery. Any bills, and payments needed by the Slave need to be sanctioned and paid for by the Master.
Final Words
As you must have noticed, Total Power Exchange isn’t simply roleplayed. It involves a lot of trust and communication along with kinky fun as the stakes are soaring high in this kind of relationship. Therefore, you need to know your relationship with the person inside out to agree to a setup like this. Make sure you are not forced into it in any way. Otherwise, it could turn abusive for you if you do not fully consent to it. However, once all these prerequisites are in place, you can have some wild fun with your partner by setting up some hot and steamy BDSM 24-7 rules for yourself. Tell us in the comments below what you think of it and how would you customize it for your partner.
