I never considered myself much of a kinkster. I was always more vanilla, happy with missionary and some light spanking. That all changed when I met my current partner. They introduced me to the world of BDSM, and I quickly realized that I had been missing out. We started attending national BDSM events, and it was there that I found my community.  

If you are also interested in BDSM and kink, chances are you’re looking for ways to explore your sexuality in a safe, consensual, and fun environment. One of the best ways to do that is by attending BDSM events. Here I am listing a few of the many national BDSM events that take place every year and that I love going to.

Whether you are a kinkster veteran or just dipping your toes into the world of kink, these events have something for everyone. From workshops and demonstrations to dungeon play and bondage parties, there’s sure to be an event that piques your interest. So put on your best leather gear and get ready to have some fun!

What happens at BDSM Events Usually?

What goes on at a typical BDSM event? While there is no one answer to this question, as each event is unique and tailored to the needs and interests of those attending, there are some activities that are commonly enjoyed by attendees. One popular activity is role-playing, in which participants take on dominant or submissive roles in order to explore their sexual desires and boundaries. Impact play, involving activities like spanking or flogging, is another popular activity, as it can lead to intense pleasure for both partners.

Other activities that may take place at BDSM events include sensation play (using tactile stimuli to create pleasure or arousal), bondage and restraints, and communication and negotiation (to ensure that all parties are comfortable with the activities taking place). Whatever the specific activities, BDSM events provide a safe space for people to explore their kinks and fetishes in a fun and consensual way.

International Fetish Day

National Fetish Day was celebrated in the United Kingdom on 4 September 2008 first. The aim of the day was to raise awareness of fetishes and to educate people about different types of fetishes. But, International Fetish Day has now become more than the National Fetish Day and is celebrated on the same day each year. International Fetish Day is a global event that celebrates all aspects of the fetish community. It is a day for people to come together and celebrate their fetishes, as well as to learn about and explore different fetishes.

Kink Fest

Kink Fest is an annual BDSM, leather and fetish convention that takes place over the course of four days in Portland Oregon. It celebrates all things related to kinky sex-positive culture!

The event features bondage parties and workshops on everything from rope play (yes you can learn how do some new knots) to Bend Over Mondays – a weekly challenge for those who enjoy bending themselves at their own limits while getting pleasured by others around them.

Boundcon

The annual Boundcon Fetish Convention is an international event for those into BDSM, fareits and kink. Taking place in Munich Germany since 2004 it’s the perfect opportunity to meet other practitioners from all over including artists who offer their services as well!

You can even sign up for some workshops if you’re looking forward to getting more comfortable with your rope skills or trying out something new like shibari knots – no matter what level the player YOU want there’ll always be someone waiting willing to teach us something so we don’t have to go back home empty handed.

Dom Con

Dom Con is a BDSM event that takes place in Los Angeles, New Orleans. And it has been going on since 2004. There are also events coming up soon in Europe as well! 

The event features top dominatrices from all over the world alongside hobbyists who practice lifestyle bindings or vanilla sexplorationism. The focus here sits heavily upon Doms but everyone is welcome so long they’re dressed appropriately (i.e., no clothing showing). Attendees can expect plenty of demonstrations about how to be better tops/bottoms within an established relationship while discussions explore current trends.

Beyond Leather

Beyond Leather is a four day event offering workshops, education and play for those who enjoy kink. The highlight of the convention includes lube wrestling events as well burlesque theater which are sure to please any fan! There’s also 50 different courses on everything from how to safely spank someone else in your relationship or what exactly goes into making an informed consent agreement among multiple power exchange partners before entering private sector space at this gathering.

Florida Power Exchange

This kink convention is a yearly event that takes place over a weekend towards the end of each year. This one seems to cater more specifically toward those in Florida who are interested in BDSM activities, but anyone can attend and enjoy themselves!

Offering workshops on all things – leather-related as well social events with positive energy throughout – FL delegation has really gone above and beyond when it comes down to hosting this open air festival right here within their home state where we find many different types people coming together not only by chance or fate but rather choice because they choose freedom instead letting society dictate what to do.

How to Find Events Related to BDSM Near me?

Finding local BDSM events can be a challenge. Here are some ways to go about it.

Start with Google

As with anything these days, Googling BDSM near me is a good place to start. This will usually bring up a mix of Eventbrite-type listings and local fetish groups on Fetlife. It’s worth scanning through both to see what’s available.

Check out local kink groups on Fetlife

If you’re not familiar with Fetlife, it’s essentially a Facebook for kinksters. It’s a great way to connect with like-minded people in your area and find out about local events. Simply do a search for “BDSM” + your location – eg. Boston BDSM and see what comes up. 

Go to a local sex-positive event or dungeon party 

Another great way to find local BDSM events is to attend sex-positive events or dungeon parties that might be happening in your area. Not only will you find kinky folks at these types of events, but you’ll also get a feel for the local scene in general. It can be helpful in finding more specific BDSM events later on.

Ask around

Last but not least, if you know anyone who is already involved in the BDSM scene, simply ask them if they know of any upcoming events that might be fun to check out. Oftentimes, the best way to find out about something is through word-of-mouth from someone who is already involved.

Check out local listings

If you live in a major city, chances are there are at least a few BDSM events happening near you on any given weekend. To find out about these events, simply do a search for “BDSM events” + your city name. For example, if you live in Chicago, try searching for BDSM Chicago Near Me. This should bring up a list of upcoming events in your area. 

Join an online community

There are numerous online communities devoted to the BDSM lifestyle. These communities can be great places to meet new people and learn about upcoming events in your area. To find an online community that’s right for you, simply do a search for “BDSM community” + your city name or state/province abbreviation. For example, if you live in California, try searching for “BDSM community CA.” This should bring up a list of relevant results for you to choose from.

Check out national listings 

If there aren’t any BDSM events happening in your immediate vicinity, don’t despair! There are plenty of national directories that list upcoming BDSM events around the country (and even around the world). A quick search for “BDSM events” should bring up several of these directories for you to peruse at your leisure.

Start your own BDSM shows

If you really can’t find any BDSM events near you that suit your fancy, why not start your own? Hosting your own event is a great way to meet new people and get involved in the BDSM community in a way that is truly tailored to your needs and interests. And who knows? Your event might just end up being the next big thing on the kinky calendar! 

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Final Words

If you’re feeling nervous about attending your first BDSM event, don’t worry – you’re not alone. I remember how difficult it was to take that first step, but trust me, it’s so worth it. These events are a great opportunity to explore your kinks and fetishes in a safe and consensual environment with like-minded people. So go ahead and add one (or two, or three) of these national BDSM events to your calendar – you won’t be disappointed!

Frequently Asked Questions

Q1. What is a BDSM event?

A BDSM event is a gathering or organized occasion where individuals with an interest in BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, and Masochism) come together to explore, learn, and engage in various activities related to the BDSM lifestyle.

Q2. Are BDSM events only for experienced practitioners?

No, BDSM events cater to individuals of all experience levels, from beginners to seasoned practitioners. Many events offer workshops, discussions, and demonstrations suitable for those new to BDSM, creating a welcoming environment for everyone to learn and connect.

Q3. How can one find and attend BDSM events?

To find BDSM events, individuals can search online BDSM communities, social media groups, or specialized event websites. Many events are advertised openly, and some may require advance registration or membership. Attendees typically need to be of legal age and adhere to any specific event rules or guidelines.

Q4. What activities take place at BDSM events?

BDSM events may include a variety of activities such as workshops on BDSM techniques, discussions on safety and consent, live demonstrations, and socializing opportunities. Some events also feature play parties where participants can engage in consensual BDSM activities in designated areas.

Q5. Is consent emphasized at BDSM events?

Absolutely. Consent is a fundamental principle in BDSM culture, and it is heavily emphasized at events. Attendees are expected to communicate openly, negotiate boundaries, and respect each other’s limits. Many events have designated dungeon monitors or organizers to ensure a safe and consensual environment.

Q6. What should one wear to a BDSM event?

Dress codes vary depending on the event, but most encourage attendees to express their personal style while respecting the guidelines. Some events may have specific themes or requirements, such as fetish wear or BDSM-related attire. It’s advisable to check the event’s guidelines in advance to ensure appropriate and comfortable clothing.