Have you ever just typed “sexual objectification” into a Google search? If so, then it’s unlikely you would have seen much related to BDSM, in fact, you will have seen something like this.

“Sexual objectification is the act of treating a person as a mere object of sexual desire. Objectification more broadly means treating a person as a commodity or an object without regard to their personality or dignity.”

The term sexual objectification certainly has a long history in mainstream media. Over the years, it has been closely related to specifically the objectification of women. Throughout early feminist movements right up to today, many people regard sexual objectification as leading protagonist in gender inequality.

So, how Does Sexual Objectification Fit into the World of BDSM?

Contrary to common misconception, sexual objectification isn’t just about mistreating and misrepresenting men or women through advertising, pornography, art, prostitution and some career choices, as mainstream media would have you believe. For those of us within the BDSM community, sexual objectification is something rather different.

How does it Work?

An objectification kink is both a physical and mental exercise, ideal for those new to the kink community who want to establish a power exchange. Within a consensual and safe partnership, objectification can be a thrilling kink experience.

One person in the partnership (and this is by no means gender specific) wants to be used for sexual gratification, within the limits that both parties have laid out for this kind of encounter. The practice can take on many experimental forms, not to mention a whole lot of fun!

Objectification often comes with humiliation, it can involve gags, blindfolds, raised voices and verbal humiliation.

Classic Sexual Objectification Scenarios

Sex Slave

Possibly one of the most popular forms of sexual objectification, the submissive chooses to play the part of a sex slave. This encounter can have many facets and really is a subject by itself.

The Removal of a Birth Name

The removal of the submissive’s birth name can be considered a form of objectification. Referring to the sub merely as an object or making the sub refer to him/herself in the third tense, such as “This slave is master’s property,” this adds the power exchange to play.

Hood Play

Putting a hood on a submissive is great example of objectification. She/he is now rendered faceless and become nothing but an object. This is an incredibly effective way to objectify a sub. Hoods can be made of many different materials, there’s even wooden boxes that are used as ‘hoods’ When playing with hoods, do take good care that the submissive can breathe well and freely.

Part of the Furniture

The submissive furniture slave is also a very popular form of objectification, and this scenario can really go anywhere, within your set limits. From a slave footstool, to a table or chair to more extreme, like a toilet, or even an ashtray. Add some ties and binds and this turns into forniphilia, the same concept, but the sub is bound.

Human Sex Doll

Sometimes considered a good place for beginners to start, this scenario for dominants and submissives can be exciting and experimental. The sub plays the part of a living sex toy, (with of course, already negotiated limits beforehand and an agreed upon a safe word) with the dominant having total power over his/her sex toy.

Caging

Putting a submissive in a cage is yet another distinct area of objectification play. Although this one comes with strong recommendations to think about the physical and emotional issues involved.  Being caged isn’t for everyone, and you may not know how you’ll react after 30 minutes in a cage.

Animal Play

Nooo not bestiality … geez … I mean like pony play and puppy play. This can involve some pricey bondage attire, the dominant or trainer in this case will treat the submissive like a pony or puppy. A pony-trainer can teach the sub to walk, trot and quite simply, act like a pony. The perfect show pony is the aim for the trainer. Or tie pony up in the stables, pull a carriage… There are endless possibilities!

Puppy Play

Again, this can involve expensive kit to get the true puppy look.  The dominant/trainer is treating the submissive as a puppy just like the pony idea. This popular objectification kink even has it’s own competitive events out there.  And, of course, who doesn’t love a good game of fetch?

Is There Something Wrong With me if I Want to Be Objectified?

This question comes up a LOT. Usually by successful and powerful people, who are shocked by the idea that they are allowing themselves to be an object. “There must be something wrong with me” “I’m a feminist, how can I want this?” “I’m a successful business man, am I sick?”

Just like I say in the Can you be a feminist and a submissive article, choosing to play the part of the objectified, no matter what your gender, does not make you weak, weird or any less of a person. Actually, you are actively handing over the power, which is a powerful act in itself.

As with many elements of BDSM and kink activities, the reality of playtime may be vastly different from how you imagined. All parties involved need to be mindful that something can (and likely will) go awry in practice. So, talk, communicate and set limits and safe words then, enjoy experimenting with sexual objectification.

Sonja is a co-founder of boldpleasures. She's on a mission to free people to revel in their true sensuality by removing the stigma surrounding kink. Sonja writes about first steps, ditching the shame and how to combine kink and 'normal' family life. She's a mother of two and happily married.

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