Kink Education: Don’t Leave it Too Late

Kink Education: Don’t Leave it Too Late

It is almost funny how we all, as educated adults, know that sex is vital to human existence and that is precisely how the generational lineage works but no one wants to talk about it. Of course there is a subsequent pleasure factor that is attached with sex too but it is one of the oldest concepts since the inception of humankind yet we struggle to vocalize our sexual needs, orientations and preferences. It is a fact that everyone, apart from the Asexual, has Sexual needs and likings. Increasingly now, there are even ‘Kinks’ that are coming to fore which are some peculiar sexual activities. Wouldn’t it be so much easier if we were given the right Sex and Kink Education so that we didn’t have to browse the information in our incognito tabs?

In this article, we will be discussing the much needed Kink Education for people who are new to it or someone who is generally interested in reading about it. Let’s begin.

Kink Education: What is a Kink?

To define it in the first chapter of your Kink Classes, Kink is an all inclusive term for pleasurable activities that people indulge in consensually, which in a non-sexual context are not considered pleasurable. It is basically a non-traditional aspect of sexual language which goes out of the Vanilla ways of sex and adds some spice to the mix. There is nothing abnormal or freaky about Kinks, as the popular image tends to be. In fact, a lot of people are into Kinks but hesitate in communicating. Another misconception about Kinks is that it is, like Vanilla, always supposed to end in sex. For kinksters, the pleasurable activities and desires are stimulating enough and the Penis Vagina intercourse is not the end goal. It can be if the partners agree but not necessarily.

Categories of Kinks

By now, we know that Kinks are non-traditional ways of exploring sexuality but that still leaves a few loose ends. Let us now look at a more tightened categorization of Kinks, in this chapter of Kink Education:

BDSM

BDSM Flag

The obvious thought that comes to mind when you think of Kinks must be BDSM. It is because the mainstream pop culture has gone all out with the usage of this term, quite loosely though. The acronym stands for Bondage/Discipline, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism. It is a wide play area in itself but comes under the umbrella of kinks. It is a more structured and power driven Kink world. But at the same time, it is important to stay well aware about bondage safety and safe words.

Fetishism

Getting turned on by a generally non-sexual object and fantasizing about incorporating it during Sexual play is fetishism. It can be about anything and everything from feet and plants to handcuffs and chains. It is also often confused with Kinks but is not the same. 

Group Sex

how to have a threesome - Treat them equally

As the Kink education goes, you should know that Threesomes, Orgies, Sex parties, etc. which are basically avenues for large number of people to engage sexually in a consensual setting, is also a part of Kinks. The urge to indulge with a lot of people in such a setting is categorized as a Kink.

Role Playing

Making up imaginary settings to amp up your sexual experience is one of the most common kinks. Fantasizing and assuming characters or just verbally narrating scenarios to build passion is what Role playing entails.

Basics of Kink Education

As this article is your current kink educator, we want you to know certain basic foundations of Kinky Play. The surface might seem all wham, bam and glam but there are safety measures that need to be set up in an aspect of sexuality where things can really blur. To put it all in perspective, we will be discussing these basics in this next part of your Kink Education.

Consent

The first and one of the most important pillars of a Kink Education is Consent. Whether or not you identify as a kinkster, what your specific kinks are, how you like kinks, etc. is all secondary. The very first step while going to town to explore kinks with your partner is to seek Consent. It cannot be assumed that the person you are involved with would be up to doing anything you like, however long the relationship may be. A clear green flag needs to be shown and it is only then that you should move ahead with your Kink exploration. 

Keep in mind that anything but a resounding ‘Yes’ is a No. The assumption that a silence or a hesitation in body language can be yes is the most dangerous. Apart from that, consent is an active part of play as well, as you must regularly keep checking and seeking consent while you are at it. It doesn’t kill the mood if you ask the right way. Rather non-consensual kink activity is what will kill the mood. Any kink education is waste if you don’t get the basics of Consent right, so be mindful.

Safewords

Safewords or Signals

Another integral part of Kink Education is the establishment of safewords. It is always to be kept in mind that the Kink is only limited to the Sexual part of it and the basis of the relationship, romantic or not, has to remain healthy and respectful. When actualizing your kinks with your partner, things can get a little rough and wild.

Safewords in this case become really important as they are words or signals which are used to communicate discomfort during kinky play. Anytime in the middle of the scene, if one of the partners feels mildly uncomfortable or wants to take a break, they can call the Safeword and the other partner has to stop the play, at once. You can use different levels of Safe Words to communicate intensity. 

For instance, Red: absolute termination of Kinky play for the time being, Yellow: signal of mild discomfort but may continue, Green: go all out and kinky.

Boundaries

Moving on to the next lesson in Kink Classes, we’ll tell you about Boundaries. Now, Transparent Communication is undoubtedly vital to a healthy relationship. Likewise, when getting into a Kinky relationship or introducing Kink to your already thriving relationship, you need to up your communication game and have thorough pre-discussions about kinks. This may include your likes, preferences in kinks to what your limits are. In the Kink world, there is a clear specification of Hard and Soft Limits due to the vastness of the Kink Play. 

Hard Limits is the larger, stronger boundary of a person which is non-negotiable during Kinky Play. Soft Limits are those kinks/activities that the person has their doubts about but might try them after discussing. This negotiation conversation must happen before you get down and dirty with kinks. It establishes some basic rules of Kink exploration for you and your partner. Playing within these limits and doing things that they like will be a lot of fun.

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Aftercare

Massage their Feet 

One last basic fundamental of Kink Education is Aftercare. This aspect of Kink exploration comes into play towards the end of the scene. As things get all wild and raunchy, things will heat up. So a cool down after the scene is equally important. This is Aftercare, the things/activities you can do with your partner to bring yourself back to normalcy after an overwhelming rush of sensations and hormones.

An abrupt end to a Kinky Play can cause serious health issues like ‘Postcoital Dysphoria’ which includes anxiety, irritability, crying, etc. What you can do as part of Aftercare is being tender and caring towards your partner, cuddling and talking about it if either of you needs to, massaging or cleaning up post the scene, etc. This regulates the hormonal secretion in the body and brings back the emotional state of the individual to the set standard.

Conclusion

In this article, we have tried to cover the basics of Kink Education for you and your partner. If you are new to the Kink world and have only recently come to terms with your kink preferences, this article should be able to walk you the initial baby steps into the Kink world. Keep all of this in mind and maybe start from the shallower end of the pool. Get out, be vocal about your kinks and explore them all you want. The aim is not to be a Kink 101 Pro right at the beginning. It is obviously not possible! But you will gradually get to the deeper end of the pool and be able to dive right into the Kinky Play. You’ll get there, don’t worry. For now, be proud of your kinks and let us know whenever you experience anything!

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