Freedom & Relationship Rules (Wait, Rules?)
The BDSM people amongst us probably will start smiling a bit when they read this headline. But I don’t really want to talk about...
Emancipated Through Submission
That doesn’t make sense, right? A submissive, a slave even - and emancipated? Surely this is just some kink propaganda. A BDSM advocate painting...
The Mismatch Between Expectation and Investment
A problem you will often see in a relationship is the mismatch between expectation and investment. Let me be clear: I am the first...
Alpha Subs: Letting Go of the Control Freak
Hi! My name is Nicole! I’m 28 and very new to the BDSM world and community! First I want to thank you for your...
When Should I Bring Up Polyamory?
A Love Triangle
Anonymous asks (on Tumblr):
I’m dating and I’m wondering when I should bring up polyamory? I’m kind of afraid to bring it up...
BDSM Training: Sex Education Revamped
Kink and BDSM have always been considered a taboo. However, with the rise of the “50 Shades of Grey phenomenon, it is clear that...
How To Align Monogamy In A Relationship
Aligning is part of the maintenance
In my practice, I notice on a regular basis that partners are having relationship-issues because they think differently about...
Polyamory: Anarchy or Hierarchy?
I read about 'relationship anarchy' and about 'primary partners' ... What’s up with that?
Answer: Roughly, you could say that on one side there is...
Fetish as a Challenge
Fetishes can be the pepper or the “itch” in your relationship.
When you read about fetishes on the first pages found by Google, you would...
Sweet Surprise: Majority of Belgians Are Kinksters
I’ve always been told that about 10% of the population were interested in BDSM. I am not even sure where that comes from anymore,...